My thought
My thought
Growing up and looking around,this world need us.Everyone has something to give:Each one of us has a certain gift he was given to contribute to eachother’s uplifting.You may not having money to give buteven being there for people,listening ,providing unlightment is something valuable. From that what I wanted to say, if someone trust you enough and come to you looking for help lets be compassionate to what happen to others,let’s motivate others to keep hope,and to keep going ,to keep their dreams high and work to achieve it no matter what.You will know that ignoring other people misfortune isn’t nice once it happens to you or someone you love and they get the same treatment as you are giving,Whereas giving and caring for God creations elevate you somehow:you get blessed somewhere
I remember in high school a teacher who told us once:’’you think you know yourself fully but you don’t!you can say I know myself,if this challenge or problem happen to me ,I will resolve it like this or like that..ect and you even demonstrate it!That’s how we advise,criticize or juge situations that are external to us!But actually you only say that but you don’t know for sure how you would react if in those instances:Do you know how really you would react if you suddenly lost all your money?your loved ones?what if all you lost all you owns? In a bad marriage? If you lost your high status you are used too in the society?all your privileges?what if you lost all your legs,your sight …ect?’’
For those who are facing similar situations above,never give up on yourself when God hasn’t given up on you,you may ask yourself why you?Just take that it’s you and you are not the first nor the last,Work on putting together the peaces of your life,cause nobody else will do it for you,Don’t hide behind any excuses or reasons,Just pray God to give you wisdom and guidance to renew yourself, ,Stand up and start new!Even if you fall don’t worry about it!Stand up,Remind yourself a child fall million times learning to walk,that’s why you must surroung yourself with people who believe in you when you are still frail,who motivate you,stay away of those who put you down even if it’s your close ones,a child is always surrounded by a mum or people who believe it can walk,was it not so the World would be full of crippled people.Someone said we are born innocent but evil comes within living in our society,so try to use the positive that society is giving you but never take the negative,our mighty God gave us brains to choose!So once you choose positive,work on yourself to to achieve,don’t build your dreams or goals on what society(the people,the culture,the society) has set you to be or has endoctrined you to become;unless it matches what you really want or can do,in other words trying to be like everyone or to have what they have is not fair on yourself,as even if we share many things in our society,circumstances we live in are not the same,each and everyone was created unique.The reason I’m saying that, is if You set up your goals just to please the outside,it’s so difficult to achieve and once you fail to,you will get miserable and to make the matter worse the outside that you are trying to please will blame you.In fact when you loose you loose alone,when you win you are surrounded.
Then why not focus on what really would make you happy,if it’s your right and doesn’t get in other people’s rights?you can make it!What I’m referring can be applied to any approach in our life.But specifically:Marriage , I think everyone has his own idea about marriage,choosing the one you’ll spend your life with is not easy.Everyone has his view ,his own perspective:so you just give your idea but know it’s not a universal one.Well,when girls or even guys nowdays are getting old,we tend to be obsessed with finding the one,getting married,having children…all of that is good.But please,don’t rush into something just because of pressure of your parents,your church pastor who tells you you were cursed,just because your friends have done it or just because you want badly to be like everyone!Of course No one has a formula to solve that matter:I’m not saying don’t make risks or who knows his future anyway but…aishh!
At least make the decision based on the options you want,which will make you happy in the first place.If you happen to realize you were wrong?what to do?Let’s say a close friend who was eager to get married,she was getting old but in her view(she is only 30)she is a true believer,she was scared as her pastor told her she was cursed,then she got the husband she was longing for,she has an income,her husband not,she takes care of the household needs with a good heart,she ias a devoted wife and mother to 2 beautiful children!Prior to marriage there were some incidents when the man would ask her for money,borrow from her but never pay,if she placed a word,they will go into a fight,but she never told me that at the time.That’s during the first month of the marriage ,that she started seeing that something was wrong,she told me only on the 4 month he was hitting her,on the 6th month of pregnancy he hit her so badly ,she crached blood then they separated for awhile.They got back together,she gave birth by cesarean ,she has given birth to another one while the first is only 1year and 3 months,the husband is even getting worse,beat her,harass I mean the bad someone can be!the wife loose hope everyday,she is one way to getting crazy yet ,yes she stays because she she is worried of outside jugement in case she divorces!Nobody likes divorce it’s awefull but..hey would you rather die?if you die or get crazy,I’m sure he won’t think twice to get another wife,Is he worth the sacrifice?Is the world you are trying to please helping you to pay the bill or comforting you?No they are telling you to stay and endure the treatment until you die!If she was your sister and desperate,would you tell her to stay or go?If she was mine and I like her like my sister,I would not only tell her to go but will also make sure she files charges against the abuser,if she allowed we would even make sure she pays,if the law doesn’t as our country has become a no man’s land,Anyway I’m so outraged and I’m getting it out of me this way. For now I will just comfort her and love her as I can!As No matter how you love someone there are certain decisions you can never take for them!She can always take it until she says:enough is enough!She is one in a million with such situation and I care.
